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Talking to ourselves in a discouraging negative way affects not only how we perceive the world but also how we pursue our goals.

We can literally talk ourselves out of our dreams and goals unconsciously by talking to ourselves in a mean way.

Sometimes we all talk to ourselves in a hindering manner.

Even Rachel Hollis, bestselling author of the book girl wash your face admitted in an interview that sometimes she has to tweak the way she talks to herself.

It’s a conscious thought work she is doing to put herself into another state of mind whenever she catches herself thinking negative thoughts about the situations she is in.

In this post, I share with you 5 tips you can implement to stop your negative self-talk right away.

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  • Count your blessings
  • Be a high performer
  • Avoid triggering situations
  • Care for yourself
  • Practice self-love


Whenever you catch yourself talking to yourself in a mean, unhelpful way you can start counting your blessings instead.

Switch your focus from the things you dislike about your life and about yourself to the things you are proud of and grateful for.

Use your journal and jot down all the things you’re proud of and grateful for in your life.

Do it for 6 months every day and I bet it’ll have a positive effect on your life.

You can make this practice part of your regular morning ritual or evening routine.


Instead of spinning your wheels, constantly being busy, and still not arriving anywhere switch your focus to your goals and focus on your results each and every single day instead.

Use the Go For Your Dreams Planner and start your days intentionally. 

When you are committed to producing results every single day and do the work that moves you towards your goal the negative self-talk can diminish over time by itself.


Which are the situations you tend to talk to yourself in a negative way?

Is it while you’re scrolling through your Instagram feed and start comparing your life to someone else?

Or when you watch what successful entrepreneurs in your field are up to and start comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle?

Notice the situations you feel most triggered by and avoid those.

While you can work on yourself by coaching yourself out of your problems or find someone helping you clear the stuff that’s coming up you can also just simply avoid those triggering situations and focus on your dreams, goals, and results instead.


Self-care is a crucial part of health and well-being.

In fact also in terms of living a happy, fulfilling life and creating a successful online business.

While there are some entrepreneurs burning their candles at both ends at the same time – this strategy won’t work forever.

It’s better to make room for self-care right away.

Reaching your goals in your life or creating your business should never come to the cost of abusing your body and sacrificing your health and well-being.

Whether you make self-care part of your daily routine or plan weekly dates with yourself it’s up to you.

You can check out these 13 self-care ideas to get inspired by.


Besides practicing self-care it’s so important to practice self-love as well.

While self-care means to care for your body, mind, and soul, self-love means to love yourself just the way you are without excuses.

Self-love is more about connecting with your inner self and more of a mindset thing.

Meditation is a wonderful way to connect with your inner self.

I have a free introduction to meditation here.

Also, feel free to read the post I’ve written on self-love where you learn 4 different ways you can practice self-love.


Download the free Go For Your Dreams Guide and learn about the steps you have to take to achieve your goals.

Use the templates from the printable Go For Your Dreams Planner and turn your dream into an actionable plan.